Do you feel stagnant or suffocated by the overwhelming emotions or numbness in your heart? Do the flashbacks of your agonizing past experience keep you stuck, and unhappy and adversely affect your relationships? Life is indeed a roller coaster of diversified experiences and going through traumatic events is probably inevitable. However, it gets very challenging for some people who come out of the painful memories of the event(s) wondering, “what did I do to deserve this grief and pain?” This thought and the events themselves come back, keeping them in a place of hurt and hindering their healing.
Nonetheless, recuperating from a nerve-wracking experience is not impossible. Certain strategies can help you grow and heal after trauma and lead a healthy life. What are some of those strategies and steps?
1. TRY TO EDUCATE/ ENLIGHTEN YOURSELF
Although it’s easier said than done, this step works wonders in coping with depression and anxiety. There is a very basic but convincing logic behind it. See, unless you know what you have been through, moving on would always be an issue and a roadblock. So, when the ‘blues’ tag themselves along with you, try to sit and think what exactly is it that is bothering you day in and day out. Once you recognize your core issue, try to see how pain works. It needs to be felt and grieved over before the healing starts. So, sit with your grief and understand it fully so that you may fully realize the underlying reason and may work on improving it too.
2. REGULATE YOUR EMOTIONS
Have you noticed how trauma sometimes leaves us feeling pesky, irritated, guilty, or unpredictable? When suffering hits hard, many individuals just cannot make out how to handle the rollercoaster of emotions. The surges of anger, frustration, helplessness, and even guilt makes it hard for them to function normally. So, if you are in the same boat, it is highly recommended that you focus on changing your emotional state if you can. This can be done via the simplest of the activities like painting, working out, calling a trustworthy friend, dancing, or any other way that can help you feel better. Here, it is important to remember that your preference matters the most and not what others keep suggesting. For instance, if you feel calmer and in control through meditation and not through chatting with someone, choose meditation. Indeed, steering your negative emotions towards positivity will help a great deal in growing out of trauma.
3. INCREASE CONNECTIVITY
If something works in a therapeutic manner more effectively than anything else, it is a heart-to-heart conversation with a loved one. Using this kind of connectivity to vent out feelings (and, yes tears, too) will help you to walk through lonely or painful feelings and buttress them with support, insight, empathy, and strength. With a wise and considerate listener, this session of talking about your issues will help you to feel heard, composed, stronger, or even happier. Additionally, connectivity if found in more traditional therapies with a professional counselor or a therapist. Many a time we tend to worry about discussing our deepest feelings and ideas with a loved one because of the fear of being judged. When you approach a therapist, they adopt a neutral position and listen to you quite empathetically. Resultantly, you get the much-needed connection and understanding so you can get ready to introspect and heal.
4. TRY MEDITATION
Misery and setback are part of life and as we agree that they cannot be avoided completely, things get completely messed up for the one who is unprepared for the event. The agony can be dealt with effectively by adopting meditation which is known to curb those howling emotions and impulsive acts. All you have to do is to sit at your place which could be your own quiet and calm room or your backyard that resonates with the chirping of birds. The choice of setup should be entirely yours. With your favorite setting, just close your eyes and using your mental imagery think of all the good and happy stuff that happened or may happen in the future. Recapitulation of good memories with your partner, for instance, can help you feel the connection back again and you may feel like talking about your grievance to your significant other and the family. Moreover, you can look at the larger picture and envision what you and your loved ones may gather or savor because of your presence around them. A therapist may help you too by using the technique of guided imagery. With consistent practice of at least 15 minutes every day, meditation can aid in improving mood and can help you move through thoughts of trauma.
5. JOIN SUPPORT GROUPS OR SEEK THERAPY
Who wouldn’t like to be around people who have been through the same ordeal? Certainly, joining a support group where like-minded people sit and talk about their struggle and pain, makes you feel empowered and sometimes your own trauma feels less intimidating too. For instance, if you are suffering from post-partum depression and trauma because of having a stillbirth or losing your child in some other way, you may come across someone who had to experience the same traumatic event and understand your pain. Though this exposure may seem depressing, it will allow you to empathize with your fellows and feel empowered, too. You can hear about what others have done that has been helpful for them and share what has been helpful for you. So either join a support group or seek professional therapy to beat the trauma and lead a fulfilling life.
1. TRY TO EDUCATE/ ENLIGHTEN YOURSELF
Although it’s easier said than done, this step works wonders in coping with depression and anxiety. There is a very basic but convincing logic behind it. See, unless you know what you have been through, moving on would always be an issue and a roadblock. So, when the ‘blues’ tag themselves along with you, try to sit and think what exactly is it that is bothering you day in and day out. Once you recognize your core issue, try to see how pain works. It needs to be felt and grieved over before the healing starts. So, sit with your grief and understand it fully so that you may fully realize the underlying reason and may work on improving it too.
2. REGULATE YOUR EMOTIONS
Have you noticed how trauma sometimes leaves us feeling pesky, irritated, guilty, or unpredictable? When suffering hits hard, many individuals just cannot make out how to handle the rollercoaster of emotions. The surges of anger, frustration, helplessness, and even guilt makes it hard for them to function normally. So, if you are in the same boat, it is highly recommended that you focus on changing your emotional state if you can. This can be done via the simplest of the activities like painting, working out, calling a trustworthy friend, dancing, or any other way that can help you feel better. Here, it is important to remember that your preference matters the most and not what others keep suggesting. For instance, if you feel calmer and in control through meditation and not through chatting with someone, choose meditation. Indeed, steering your negative emotions towards positivity will help a great deal in growing out of trauma.
3. INCREASE CONNECTIVITY
If something works in a therapeutic manner more effectively than anything else, it is a heart-to-heart conversation with a loved one. Using this kind of connectivity to vent out feelings (and, yes tears, too) will help you to walk through lonely or painful feelings and buttress them with support, insight, empathy, and strength. With a wise and considerate listener, this session of talking about your issues will help you to feel heard, composed, stronger, or even happier. Additionally, connectivity if found in more traditional therapies with a professional counselor or a therapist. Many a time we tend to worry about discussing our deepest feelings and ideas with a loved one because of the fear of being judged. When you approach a therapist, they adopt a neutral position and listen to you quite empathetically. Resultantly, you get the much-needed connection and understanding so you can get ready to introspect and heal.
4. TRY MEDITATION
Misery and setback are part of life and as we agree that they cannot be avoided completely, things get completely messed up for the one who is unprepared for the event. The agony can be dealt with effectively by adopting meditation which is known to curb those howling emotions and impulsive acts. All you have to do is to sit at your place which could be your own quiet and calm room or your backyard that resonates with the chirping of birds. The choice of setup should be entirely yours. With your favorite setting, just close your eyes and using your mental imagery think of all the good and happy stuff that happened or may happen in the future. Recapitulation of good memories with your partner, for instance, can help you feel the connection back again and you may feel like talking about your grievance to your significant other and the family. Moreover, you can look at the larger picture and envision what you and your loved ones may gather or savor because of your presence around them. A therapist may help you too by using the technique of guided imagery. With consistent practice of at least 15 minutes every day, meditation can aid in improving mood and can help you move through thoughts of trauma.
5. JOIN SUPPORT GROUPS OR SEEK THERAPY
Who wouldn’t like to be around people who have been through the same ordeal? Certainly, joining a support group where like-minded people sit and talk about their struggle and pain, makes you feel empowered and sometimes your own trauma feels less intimidating too. For instance, if you are suffering from post-partum depression and trauma because of having a stillbirth or losing your child in some other way, you may come across someone who had to experience the same traumatic event and understand your pain. Though this exposure may seem depressing, it will allow you to empathize with your fellows and feel empowered, too. You can hear about what others have done that has been helpful for them and share what has been helpful for you. So either join a support group or seek professional therapy to beat the trauma and lead a fulfilling life.
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